Dianne, I'm so sorry to read about your grief with your sister.

You sound so very frustrated and disappointed in her. How does your husband feel about this? Is he supporting you?

From what you have described, and the fact that she hasn't defended you in the past, sounds like there could be envy or jealousy playing some kind of role here. Don't people act aggressive when they are envious of someone? Could that be her problem? If it is, then it might help you understand the way she is.

Besides, you got a whole bunch of Boomer sisters here that care.
Hannelore