Dotsie, you deserve a break. Too bad it isn't a cruise instead of resting from surgery. This is the only forum(s) I visit. I used to visit forums related to sexual assault and domestc violence. I mostly served as an understanding and supportive poster. However, I reduced my time on those forums to virtually nothing. However, if Oprah has a show that has a message board on a topic I am interested in, then I will visit that board for 2-3 days after the show to get my voice in. For example, tomorrow she is having a show on people who tried to commit suicide, and they lived. I'm interested in that topic, so I'll post. Otherwise, BWS satisfies most of my needs. I check in throughout the day when I have time.