Cathy, I have seen 9 bridesmaids at a good friends daughter's wedding and it was a whole tribe of long dresses going down the aisle! But, some girls just can't say "no" to someone they think would be offened. That is the least of your worries! At my daughter's wedding nearly 2 years ago, the best man and maid of honor made the toast. My husband did not...however, there was some talk that he should have! Too late now, we never saw a father do it before, except on that commercial on TV! Anyway, it is all over so fast and no one remembers what happened anyway. Try hard to enjoy and relish in every moment. And yes, keeping the peace is very important too. The future is what you want to count on with a relationship with your daughter for years to come. Good luck with the dress shopping!