I just had a thought. Judith Sherven is our relationship expert with the NABBW. Her latest book has to do with couples getting married. Let me find the link fro you because I bet she addresses this in her book.

Okay, Google, Judith Sherven Wedding Book and you will see a couple of her sites. This book may be helpful. Just a thought!
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