BJ I understand your question about spiritual attack, and it may well be HOWEVER that doesn't negate the fact that you are in a dangerous situation. You need to protect yourself and if you have children you need to protect them.

Luckily, my abusive marriage was only verbal/emotional, I never had to deal with hitting, but it is my understanding that the cycle is the same. There is a honeymoon period where everything seems fine, then the verbal assault begins and deepens into the physical attacks, followed by another honeymoon period. Unfortuantely, with time the honeymoon period becomes shorter and the abuse periods get longer.

He needs help--more help than you can give him. It is admirable to 'stand by your man', just don't do it at the expense of your own health and sanity. You are worth much too much for that risk. Praying for you.