Number5, domestic violence is more about control than the abuse itself. When words no longer control a woman, the abuser will often escalate into physical violence.

It sounds like he's in more of a panic and jealous mode except for the nasty messages...that's verbal and emotional abuse.

It's strange because he doesn't want to be with you but wants to be sure you have no life without him. This tells me he's still emotionally involved with you and doesn't want to turn 100% loose. I think he's afraid.

My husband doesn't understand how or why we connect on this site but he's never been jealous.

Remember: The base of control is fear.