Number 5,
Oh, sweetheart...yes, you are with an abusive person. Large hugs. I wish I were there to wrap my arms around you and let you cry it all out.

Is there someone near you who you can talk with?

It sounds like he is an alcoholic, or at least has alcoholic tendencies. That's a whole system in itself. It's what I lived with for years.

I'm a life coach and willing to provide free support to you if you want/need it. I can even call you so you don't have the phone charges. As I said, I've been there. And I am no longer there. I am also perfectly comfortable with your viewpoints.

Please take care of yourself today in any way you feel is possible.

With love and support.