Sugaree,
I forgot the other physiological factor that works against us at this delightful time in life. It's our hormones.
Somewhere around menopause, there is a surge of testosterone that can make us insanely sexual. The duration seems to vary. Hopefully it won't last long if that is what is affecting you now.

Maybe if it is hormonal, you can survive until your hormones slow down enough to allow you to think more clearly.
Just a thought.
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