"I use to be the martyr type that suffered in silence" was what you said earlier. You never shared your TRUE feelings with him, thats what I was referring to WB not just the sex but your feeling's about things in general. Hey, we all do it, I did and then couldn't understand why he was clueless. Because he wasn't a mind reader thats why. Most men are stupid enough when it comes to relationships and need all the help we can give to them...so being mysterious or a martyr doesn't ever work!

Oh and we fake it by saying 'yes' when we mean no or we'd rather just hold one another and talk, or take a nice walk together or maybe you'd rather be alone, read a book, watch TV, pet the dog or eat some chocolate, but instead we say yes, suffer silently while growing more and more resentful of the selfish person we married. Sound familar amyone??? [Frown]

[ September 28, 2005, 08:12 PM: Message edited by: chatty lady ]