judym,

Don't you think that sometimes people going through rough times aren't looking for answers they are just looking for a caring heart to listen.

It is VERY hard to stand by someone going through hard times - but it is a gift that you are giving her by just listening and caring.

When I've had friends going through things - I've made it a point to call them often to just say, "hey, I'm thinking about you...you are loved!".

Thans my two cents.

People need a chance to work through their feelings.

Danita