Misfire, here's a thought...I think one on one is the best way to relate to our children. We do a lot of dividing and conquering in our home. Ross, or I will take one of the kids off for a meal, game, road trip, whatever, and leave the rest behind. It's a perfect opportunity to catch up without the distraction of the other kids.
Do you think your husband might like to do something like that?

Dianne mentioned a good point. HE may very well feel left out.