Touchy subject...I understand the 'want to but can't--for whatever reason--goes.' I found out I have HPV--doctor could not tell me how long I've had it or who I contracted it from (I've been married more than once...) I had to have three PAP smears come back normal (had to have one every three months) before I could go back to the one a year schedule...HPV can cause cancer if left untreated. Left me feeling scared to have sex--the big C is very scary!!!

I wonder if men truly understand how freaky some of these things are to women. Their plumbing is so different, and doesn't have all the inherent problems of womens. Granted, they do have prostate to worry about...