I love your point about being happy in your marriage. I too am happy and feel so very blessed to contunue to be happy after 23 years of marriage. In fact, there are times that I feel GUILTY because of that happiness. Not everyone has it and I find this sad. I have a husband who has always been willing to communicate AND do his fair share. I feel like we are a true team. Why is it that some men aren't willing to do their fair share. I know women who are who are willing to work at their marriages, but their husbands don't understand what that means, and if they do...they aren't willing.