Alice, I'm sorry you're still hurting.

The number of years in a wedding anniversary mean squat if the marriage is squat, speaking from experience here. Today would not have marked 31 years of wedded bliss -- it would've marked 31 years of hell.

Maybe I'm wrong and I certainly don't wish to hurt you -- but what you're grieving for is the dream that never happened, not the crappy abusive marriage that was.
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