Originally Posted By: Di
I refer to them, when speaking to others, as "(DH's) daughter,son, granddaughter". When I introduce them, it's "my step...".

They call me by my first name, but the granddaughter calls me "Nunna"..which I'm sure will catch on to the younger one.

Because their Mom is still alive and well, the "Mom" or "ours" does not sit well w/me. Also because I'm not a Mom of my own either. I think that makes a difference.

Plus, it's part of my effort to let others know that not everyone has their own kids.


Nothing wrong with your solution, Di. I would tend to do what you would do . But because I'm not married AND I wasn't directly involved in raising his children when they were teens, though the children have known me since he and I have been together since that time in their life, I refer to my partner's ( his name) daughter or son. Also my partner's grandson, is just that...it is not my grandson.

And I am certain this is what his children would like from me too. It would be terribly presumptuous of me (and they would probably think I'm wierd and would become uncomfortable) to refer to them otherwise when I didn't give birth to them nor did I raise them.

Do I feel bereft, left out, awkward? Nope. I'm already a proud aunt of 6 nieces and nephews from 3 sisters. smile
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