Yes, it's gotten more worse with her but maybe it's me also. Interesting pt. Edelweiss, about giving up in general, once a person gives up on egocentric controlling behaviour. It maybe a trend for my mother. I actually hope not.

I think in a way for her, to have me as the only adult child (compared to the rest) live so far away, represents a sense for her, a loss. A loss of presence of myself to her. A subtle reminder that as one grows old, what was under one's motherly control/embrace, drifts away eventually.

I know my other siblings get quite frustrated with her, since they have to deal with her more frequently since they all live in the same city region.

What is probably most difficult for any aging parent is not to regress by expecting their child, now adult to be constantly bending to a parent's willpower/whims.