LOL, Anne, I had to respond to your post! Great observations. I too have noticed the men with whom I've become involved lack the emotional intelligence required for a successful pairing. I no longer think of men in terms of "must haves," as my must haves are independent of them. They are the ability to take care of MYSELF emotionally and financially. It took me a long time to learn this, and now having succeeded, I doubt there is a man in my future, and I'm fine with that.
Patty