Bluebird, that is just like you to have a wise kind answer. All the answers here are good ones but I have to agree on not answering the phone late at night. These calls probably upset you a little and make it hard to sleep as you think about the conversation in your mind after you've hung up. Eventually it will wear on your nerves too Daisygirl but I understand you not wanting to totally put her off. Just do what you can and hope she decides she's ready to heal herself.