Dear Dancer and LJ, thank you for your comments. I think we should get my mother to a group home. I'm sorry I went onto a tangent last night, and I appreciate all of your thoughts. LJ, I went through a grieving process about a decade ago when I had to face the fact that my mother was not fully present. I had plenty of therapy sessions about that, and made peace. But for whatever God given reason there is, she and I remain intertwined in intense relationships, and I am to grieve losing her in a whole other way. I am sorry for what you both have endured, and I appreciate that you can share your experiences with me. It helps. Now I am going to see what group homes are available to her because I hear that is the least expensive way to go at this time, and a more popular choice in terms of care. L, PL