Yes, the long good-bye! So many of us go through that, with agonizing grief the entire time. I know about family issues, often old issues, raising their ugly heads during these difficult times. I hear it from my readers all the time. It's not unusual, but it doesn't make it any easier. Keep taking the high road, Renee and try to detach from your relatives. Try to get some respite care for yourself through a church or a social service provider. You need to take care of yourself for your mother and for you. Bless you.