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You sound like a wonderful mom and grandmother. They are lucky to have you and I will pray all goes well.

As for the 2 yr old in the hospital, my 4 yr old grandson have been in and out of the hospital for ear infections and asthma all his life. Only 3 mos ago they finally tested him for all kinds of allergies, and found he was allergic to milk, soy milk (he has to drink rice milk), cheese, sugar, it goes on and on. They said this is what has caused his problems since birth. It might be worth looking into. Save money, energy, and time, not to mention health for everyone!