Gimster,

I agree...we love your questions...Anno is right...you don't have to start out being grateful for this ungrateful, demanding person in your life.

Start out being grateful that you have heat or air conditioning...don't even think of him...be grateful for the fact that the sun is shining or that you're getting much needed rain...don't even think of him...

I'm not one who thinks you have to find the thing to be grateful for in the moment of a bad situation...when something unpleasant is happening it may be too overwhelming to be grateful in the moment...but maybe there is something else you can be grateful for...

Later, when the dust settles and you're feeling less hurt...then you can look for the good in the relationship...

You might make a sunshine list of things that you are always grateful for...when things get you down...pull out the list and have a look...it'll make you smile...

We love you and I'm grateful that you're here!