What is the nicest...

thing anyone has ever done for you? Family member, girlfriend, stranger, or lover, anyone at all. The NICEST thing, maybe something that was completely unexpected. I need to think on this awhile but will be back with something.

oh my gosh, Chatty...there are wayyyy too many more-than-nice things that others have done for me in my almost 55 years! I'll bet this thread will show some wonderful people. Can we post more than once?? I have recent & old history when it comes to kindness of others! Two years ago my hubby took me to a beautiful jewelry store on Christmas Eve (he told me we were going elsewhere but he wanted me to first meet an old friend he had recently run into....who just happened to be the store manager). When we got inside, everything sparkled with Christmas. The manager came out to greet us and handed us each fluted glasses full of champagne. My sweetie turned to me with tears in eyes and said "Merry Christmas, baby...the skies the limit...pick anything you want!" Needless to say I was in shock...and cried. No one had ever done anything like that for me. I came away with a beautiful garnet ring surrounded with diamonds! Oh but there are so many other kind and beyond wonderful things that have been done for me!

What a great thread, Chatty. I too could contribute so many stories, my entire life is a series of wonderful things that people have done for me.

But one thing stands out bright and clear. I've shared it before, and it might sound corny being shared HERE in this thread, but it is by far the nicest thing anyone has ever done in my life.

My brother Gary was diagnosed with both diabetes and hodgkin's lymphoma at the same time. One of our major problems during the months of chemo was trying to get him to eat and drink enough, made more difficult by the diabetes which further restricted his options. One day, we get a package delivered to Gary's door, open it, and there in the box was a generous assortment of diabetic drinks for Gary to try. He did try them all, and found one he liked and that was one of the few things he could keep down during his ordeal. The sender of that box? A total stranger who had never met Gary but heard about his problem here in this forum and just decided to let him know that someone out there cared. Her kindness had a huge impact on him, and still brings tears of gratitude to my eyes and heart. Chatty, many people have done wonderful things for me in my life, but you helping my brother like that was by far the kindest, most heart-lifting thing I've ever experienced.

Gary's gone, but your kindness lives on in my heart forever, and I believe that it gets passed along and rippled back out into the world, because everytime I remember, it reminds me to be kind and generous of heart to others who I meet along my way.

Kindness is a baton like in a relay race.
I saw it acted out as a child in small ways.Vegetables left at doorsteps when others' had plenty and being sent with parcels to homes when we had things.
Our Cnadian relations sent food parcels ..Until 1952 we had rationing.these parcels were shared...dear friends were included when we had plenty.The box was lined with childrens comics..and the bounty within was more than just food.It was an act of faith from a brother to his sister.Great Uncle Jim came to to us for his last years lived amongst us so I did get to meet the sender.

I cannot tell of all the kind acts but one phone call saying a kitten was being deliver to me later that day is one .
my friend this year who moved after her bereavement gave me so much during her downsizing...as I use and see her belongings in my home I feel blessed.as if her energy is here with me.
The generosity to many during her grief..she lost her mother and husband within two weeks is an example of her person.
Even her food from her cupboard was given to me for the church homeless drive.
Like LJ can we post more than once.
Mountain ash

Oh Chatty, what a wonderful thread!

There are a gazillion "kindest" things (is that possible) I have been blessed with in my life. And I often forget them, so this is a great remember (that is why I started collecting stories of kindness a few months ago...because there are so many and they aren't often focused on).

One happened just this morning. If you've read my request for prayer (and so many of you have shared your love and prayers), you know things are a bit tough right now in my marital life.

A young lady from Germany was due to spend 10 days with us (starting Friday) and we were both excited and I was a bit concerned about the tensions between us and how they would affect her.

This morning she wrote that she had a dream about the two of us and how we needed to spend time together reminding each other how much we loved each other. So she said, in short form, you don't need to pick me up Friday and then wrote a beautiful "script" for what she would like to see us do, in her honor, for the week she would have been here. The script included a ceremony I taught her for releasing old memories and hurts, movie night with beer and all sorts of wonderful things. It was an amazing gift...and I'm stunned into silence by the insight and kindness of it.

It remains to be seen whether my hubbie will honor her request...he was scheduled to take a week off work and now is reconsidering that. Which, to be frank, hurts ('cuz of course I had a vision of him taking the week off anyway) and is understood. He has yet to decide if he wants to actually "work" on this relationship or not, so this may be more of a push than he really wants to deal with right now.

AND that takes nothing away from the amazing act of kindness given by this young woman.

What insight your friend has Mama Red. Hopefully your husband will follow her advice and just the two of you will spend a "rivival" week together.

I think this is a beautiful thread too Chatty.

But frankly I got to think about it. Hmmm, a special compliment? Am I thinking too long? Eeeee,… Not a good sign....

Orchid just complimented me in another thread. How she could imagine me being a good worker in an orphanage. Things like that touch my heart. Oh, and you ladies have spoiled me with compliments on my art work. That made me blush over and over.
I'm with Eagle; I think I have received the most compliments here.

Thanks Edelweiss...I hope so too...as of right now, he has not responded to the positive, so I will continue my prayers and see what happens.

I appreciate all the support I've received here and am doing my best to STOP settting expectations and let be what is.

Oh my Eagle, you have brought me to tears. I didn't expect to read what you wrote and I thank you for being so kind. I do the things I do because they give me such pleasure to be able to help someone in some small way. I know Gary enjoyed laughing as well and I found myself searching for more and more jokes to send to him. That was such fun. Thank You...

Ladies I feel this will be a healing thread so OF COURSE lets post as many memories each as we can recall.

I too have many but here is just one for now...

My first husband and I were newly married and had plans to buy a house. The houses in our price range were small and needed lots of work. We found one and bought it. The deal went through just a week before we were to leave on a fishing trip with some friends. That was our honeymoon too. We couldn't get out of the trip because everything was paid for in advance. So we decided we'd do all of the work little by little when we returned.

Two weeks later we pulled onto the block of our new home and I remember saying, wheres the house? We're on the wrong street! We drove around the block and no, it was the right block.

While we were gone, my father, my grandpa and two uncles painted the outside, and inside, laid new tile throughout, and it looked like a brand new home, they even planted sod and beautiful flowering hedges, and two trees.

When we pulled into the driveway, out of our house stepped our families, we went inside and after ooing, and awing everything, we settled down for a house warming party.

Now thats something wonderful I will never forget.

Today I was walking out of the supermarket with two full bags and someone rudely crashed into me, causing me to drop my bag of groceries and fruit went rolling everywhere.

As I scurried about trying to catch everything and still keep an eye on the other bag and my purse, a car stopped and three young rather rough looking young men emerged and began grabbing up my groceries.

I wasn't sure what they were doing, or why, until one of them said here ma'am, you have a seat and we'll get it. Once everything was picked up and put back into the bag. They carried the bags to my car and made sure all was well. I offered them some money but they said nope, we just hope if this ever happens to our mon someone will stop and help her too.

Aw, so there are good apples in the younger generation as well!

Great thread.

I've noticed how spoken words can occasionally be the greatest gift. Affirmation is so badly needed in our world. I love using my words to build others up, and I so appreciate it when others do the same for me.

Mama, I'm guessing this friend was a friend to both you and your hubby? What a lovely women. I'm still parying for you during this difficult week. Mama, hang in there.

LJ, it definitely sounds liek you got a winner this tiem around. Didn't you meet online? If so, which site?

Eagle, chatty has a way of reaching across the miles at such appropriate times. What a great story of love extended through a forum.

MA, I recall when you and your friend were going through so much. How is she doing these days?

chatty, your father must have been a wonderful man. What a pleasant surprise. Anyone who does the dirty work for a loved one is certainly showing love. Painting? Yuk. I have a hard enough time doing it for myself.

I posted in another forum about my son's surprise visit last weekend. I was touched. And I liked the way he got his brother to pick him up to pull off the surprise.

Hi Dotsie

Thank you...yes, she is a friend of both of us. She actually started as a "student" of my techie work and we involved into a coaching relationship and friendship. What was amazing to see was how much she had taken to heart our "lessons" and correspondance over the last 1.5 years.

When Gil chose to move ahead with divorce, she took one more shot, knowing it was a high probability that she would be shot down. I was in awe of her courage and her taking a stand for us a couple, for forgiveness and for choice.

I can't, and won't, take credit for the steps and courage she had AND knowing I made a difference in her life and taught her ways to cope with her own situation lightened my heart and my fears as I went through this week...my own version of "hell on earth".

I posted an update to another Forum...can't remember which one right now.

The short version? Prayer works miracles...he asked to talk and poured out his sadness and regret at hurting me and others so deeply.

So, one more step. And I'm exhausted!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That is simply wonderful MamaRed. I hope you two can work things out. Prayers still coming your way...

Dotsie
My friend who lost her Mother and husband within two weeks sold her house (before the credit crunch stopped all the sales here)She is a distance away but as close as ever.Helping with her Grandchildren and making her home as beautiful as the one she left.So we talk cushions and curtains and tears and losses.
My minister visited her and they hit it off.she reads our website.She misses the area but is brave and looks forward.
She helped at a school party recently where her training and expertise was welcomed...
I plan a stay during our Christmas holiday when my family will hold the fort here.She sleeps badly but her words are it makes her life longer.We will have a pyjama party.video chosen

I carry her in my heart.
Thank you for remembering.

what a lovelie topic stuff that upleifts gotta be a bit more prsiouse weather its personal to you or just you get to witness it.

iv one example of it i was bundkling out a shop arms full and anson droped a lettle tin box of cars and sholders and the bits kids value. he was upset and my hands were full but a women with two kids stopped and helped pick up the stuff and put it back into the tin box. Nuthing dramatic but for the look in her eyes that weer filled with love and kindness for a child slightlie flustered but unknowen to them.
thats lmost 8 yrs ago if not more and what i rember was how she looked at him. Some women are just natural careers and lovers or nurtureers of kids surlie she was one of them.
i didn't and couldn't speek to her i was so taken aback. It helped hm and lightened my day. Sometimes its not what we do but the intension behing whats done that makes the difrenses, it did on that day!

Hello You.
been a while

The intention.Yes I understand.
Last night on BBC Children in Need the PROCLAIMERS read testimonies from children who are part of a project for the children of drug dependant parents. Both men were moved..and I was really having to use my tissues..
then the houseparent/manager came on to speak.She was around 50 very dark hair blue eyes (Irish perhaps) lined around her eyes but the beauty when she spoke about her vocation shone like a beacon.
Did you watch...Celtic.
Mountain ash

Maama, I read your update in the other forum. Good news.

Mountain, I'm guessing the move closer to her family has been a good one. A girlfriend pj party sounds grand.

Speaking of the intention behind the action... while visiting a loved one at an eldercare facility today, two young girls gently knocked on the door and handed me a little baggie with two home baked cookies. They went to every door and did the same thing. I know all they were trying to do was cheer up the residents with their sweet smiles and carefully packaged and tied bags of cookies. There are many young kids who are doing great deeds and rarely get recognition.

hay mountain good to see you still keepng the celtic end of things up.

I didnt get to see it, i don't get to watch normale tv much. I stuck to sci/fi channel when i do. The diffrnt regines also have diffrent sceduling so sometimes we have diffrent local prgrammes but you'd think pudslie would be national, eh!

funnie how eyes are always shining wen good intensions are beng done, shinning about best word i use to describe it too.

Dotsie its those wee sweetthings from some kids get so easilie overlooked amoungst the busie days but sometimes its those wee things that make it or life so worthwhile.
its easie to miss the good from or in kids amist this culutre of kids no good type of bashing thing.