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#69892 - 07/25/05 12:36 AM
Advice on relocating
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Registered: 04/08/03
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Loc: Florida
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Wondering if anyone else who is single and doesn't have the benefit of a spouse's income to assit with finances has had the experience of relocating to another state without first having a job to transfer to. I'm wanting to move back to FL next year to be closer to family but of course job, money to live on while job searching, how to sell house and pay the mortgage until it sells, etc. all has to be dealt with and planned for.
If anyone has pearls of wisdom I would love to hear them. I've been wanting to do this for oh, about 10 years, and realize I will just have to up and do it rather than waiting for the "perfect" time.
Thanks in advance. Kelly
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#69895 - 07/28/05 07:27 AM
Re: Advice on relocating
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Registered: 11/11/04
Posts: 3503
Loc: Colorado
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Kelly, you say you want to move closer to family. Can they help you make the transition? I wish money did not have to get in the way of our dreams. LLL
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#69896 - 07/28/05 04:37 PM
Re: Advice on relocating
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Registered: 04/08/03
Posts: 267
Loc: Florida
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Hello everyone,
Thank you for the advice. At this point my goal is to save enough money to where money isn't an issue, at least enough to get me thru the transition. Wish me luck.
Also, I have been on these boards previously as Kelly L. Stone. I have added back my family name to the mix just to give it a try for a while.
Best, Kelly
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#69897 - 07/28/05 06:38 PM
Re: Advice on relocating
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Registered: 03/22/05
Posts: 4876
Loc: Canada
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Kelly, I was in the same sort of situation for many years. I had moved to Nova Scotia (the East Coast of Canada), but all of my family still lived in Ontario. It was only supposed to be for six months, but I ended up staying there for 17 years...but spent the last 7-8 years of that time yearning for a way to move home. I was too poor and didn't have a clue how to make that move by myself. Looking back, that inertia seems surprising, because I had made the initial move TO Nova Scotia all by myself with no job and yet found one the day after I arrived there. So you'd think that would have taught me to trust my instincts a little more!
I never told my family about wanting to move home, because I had already put them through so much grief with my depression. Looking back now, I know they would have loved to have me back home and would probably have done everything in their power to help make it happen. Sadly, I didn't recognize THEIR yearning for me too until I DID move back.
It was after I met my now-hubby that the dream of going home became a reality. I admit that it's sad that it took his money and strength of will to do it, but at the same time, if I had moved back on my own when I had wanted to, I would never have met hubby, so maybe it was all meant to work out that way.
Anyway, I say to follow your heart. Life's too short to not follow what dreams you are able to make come true. If your heart is yearning to move closer to your family, I say do it, and the rest will follow. And if you have any sort of rapport with your family, tell them. What can you lose? If they're not in any position to help, then you're no worse off. But if they CAN help, like mine would have, then who knows what can happen with their love to back you up.
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#69899 - 07/29/05 02:36 AM
Re: Advice on relocating
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Registered: 06/30/05
Posts: 383
Loc: Illinois
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Kelly, I am also in the same situation. Divorce in process, family would like me to move closer to home. (I would too). However, son is just getting his head on straight and making plans to start college this fall and will have to commute-at least short term. I have been looking for a new job to help make ends meet for 7 months and haven't found anything worth while. I do live in a somewhat rural setting, but it only took 3 months to land this job 3 years ago.
Considering our 'boomer' age and how important it is for us to have a nestegg at retirement, I wouldn't move without a job.
Personally, my plan is to find a house or duplex that needs work, buy low, fix up for next two years, finish recooping from divorce, then decide whether or not to move, son will have graduated from college and he'll be on his own by then.
If I decide to move I can either sell high or keep as a rental property to continue to bring in extra income. In a pinch, rental income could be used to carrying me over till I find a job--course by then, I will be a big name writer and not need a J-O-B anymore!!
I'll be praying for you!
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#69901 - 08/01/05 10:06 PM
Re: Advice on relocating
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Registered: 06/30/05
Posts: 383
Loc: Illinois
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Dotsie, From your lips to God's ear, as they say! I would love to write something that is as big a hit as what JK Rowling has done--who wouldn't?!!
It's so sad to think about moving away from your child. Children are supposed to grow up and leave you-not the other way around. I know it's the best thing for him right now, but I confess that I was also way too emotional about the thought of moving away from him--it just felt like I was abandoning him--even if he is 20! Parents don't move-kids move. I don't know, it just seemed wrong somehow...
Has anyone else gone through this--the emotional 'hey-this-is-wrong-parents-don't-move-kids-are supposed-to-do-that',thing?
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