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#151563 - 07/01/08 09:36 AM
Re: Mammogram Update
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Many thanks, MA. It seems to be that I am getting my round of "top to tail" all of a sudden. But, best to get it done and dusted now as we have a wedding in August. I'll pat my shoulder each time I'm called in for a procedure and will find comfort to know you're there.
My son is indeed precious, Dotsie. A fine, fine man. I am blessed. He has taken it upon himself to be my primary carer as my daughter lives some distance from me and was such a jewel during my post-op recovery when I had my surgery a few years back.
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#151564 - 07/03/08 02:14 AM
Re: Mammogram Update
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Your son sounds precious. I've heard of daughters doing that, but not sons!
He does sound like a jewel. I wanted a son. Glad I have my girls, who are both jewels to me. But, I would have liked to try my parenting skills on a boy. I'm grateful the Lord saw fit to give you a good one, Lola...and know that your parenting had a lot to do with the outcome.[
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gims, I'm scared sh*#less that I might get cancer in my right breast after reading your information about mother-in-laws. LOL! Unfortunately, our relationship deteriorated when the kids were young teens. Very sad...
dotsie, you had me laughing so hard!!!! I should have cancer in my right breast, too.... if I fall into the spiritual root percentage. I am so ashamed of how I let my relationship with my M-N-L deteriorate. She was a very good woman/person.
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#151565 - 07/03/08 04:16 AM
Re: Mammogram Update
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I have two children.My daughter is our rock.Sometimes i feel I have to pinch myself at all she has become.At present she is in Geneva at a conference re.Childhood studies.She is starting her holiday there then kcicking off to Interlaken etc..She filters down all her vacation to us.Also gives talks at groups who look for speakers.She is all I could wish for.Beautiful inside and out.Gives a good food massage and makes coffee when I have just thought Id like one.. Now for my son.. He too Lola has been a carer here.His University finals had just finished when I had my hysterectomy a while back.He was 21 and cooked like a chef..made trays of tempting food.He was here last year between contracts when is Father took ill.Lifted him in to room..but after visitng each day at hospital he would do the laundrey..It was Feb. and winds at night dried the clothes .I still see him in my minds eye hanging pyjamas and towel (and panties) on the line.He would do every thing here to allow us to spend time at hospital.Then sit and hold his Dads hand .He saw to me his sister and his Dad.He has to work long weeks.but still visits.He is wise and again I have to pinch myself. These children are ours. Even my gynae/urology situation he takes in his stride.Never crossing a line between being caring or embarrased.My operation last year..he was here..breast scare also its as if everything that really matters in life has been given to us.But the hand holding I stored as my jewels.
He bugs me...goes barefoot a lot in the house and garden..I dont like his martial arts..he is gentle and this sport would not be my choice.He unlike my daughter does not come to church.(he studied philosophy politic and media sand has a different slant on things.He is a seeker..like myself. From him I have learned so much...From my daughter so much also.
Lola you have a good boy...and in our children we leave our testimony to every moment we Mothered them.
Wish I could visit you during this time at one time I would have but at present home needs me..
Lola all is well.
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#151567 - 07/04/08 02:19 PM
Re: Mammogram Update
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MountainAsh..what a blessing you have in your children..but as you say yourself..you and your husband have a hand in all of this,too. Your children have been blessed by having the 2 of you as their parents! Beautiful..beautiful stories about your children here, ladies. Thank goodness for our families.. And Lola..good luck again,then
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#151568 - 07/05/08 04:04 PM
Re: Mammogram Update
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Ladies, thanks for sharing these lovely, tender stories. It's so important that we stay focused on the good in others.
gims, did you at one time get along with your MIL? I did, but as the kids grew, she was needed less, and somehow I got blamed for it. She was a very needy person for reasons that went back to her childhood. For awhile, our family could fill those needs so I was all that and then some. But once they became more independent, as kids do, it was my fault that they were no longer interested in Nana. Truth is, they loved her but they were more into staying at their friend's homes as they got older which left her out. She took it personally. Somehow, I was the one she blamed for it. I think it has something to do with women not being able to take things out on their sons?
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#160203 - 09/18/08 12:49 PM
Re: Mammogram: Waiting for Results
[Re: Dotsie]
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It seems that every few years I get a "Houston, we have a problem" report regarding my annual mammogram. In 2002 the initial report resulted in more mammos, an ultrasound and a nightmarish stereotactic biopsy. Luckily, all turned out well in the end, but the waiting for results could have given me a heart attack.
I'm not supposed to get stressed, which has already taken the lives of my mom and sisters at far too young an age.
Now this year, my annual mammogram has once again resulted in the need for special view mammograms and an ultrasound, all of which I had done yesterday. The reports are again not so good, and I am once again scheduled for this stereotactic biopsy.
This time the biopsy procedure falls on the day before my son's wedding rehearsal dinner, and 2 days before his wedding. (It can't be done any earlier because certain technicians and the doctor will be on vacation)
I will have to do the acting job of a lifetime to make like the happy groom's mother, when all I can think of is what may be growing inside me.
Is my luck now running out? Will the heart defect found last month now REALLY start acting up because of the tremendous stress I am now under?
I'm trying so hard to be positive, but it's an hour to hour process. I cried in the parking lot after hearing about the need for this specialized biopsy. Thank God my husband had taken the day off to be with me, or I might have passed out from the shock.
I've suffered through so many tragedies over the years and I'm just plain sick/terrified of these post mammogram horrors. Right now I almost feel I should take a hatchet and cut both breasts off.
Another thought: Though my husband is extremely supportive and says he would love me no matter what, I already had one 20 year marriage collapse because my now-ex thought I was not perfect enough. So obviously right now my self-esteem is not in the best of shape when thinking of a chubby body shape minus breasts.
I'm normally the one who offers others comfort. Yet today I cannot. Thank you for taking the time to listen.
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#160236 - 09/18/08 03:54 PM
Re: Mammogram: Waiting for Results
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Registered: 11/08/05
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Thank you for the kind thoughts, Dotsie. The last stereotactic biopsy resulted in them finding that "the shadow" represented an area of bleeding from where they think I may have bumped myself at some point. I said, "HUH?" All this testing for a bruised inner boob? lol
I've had previous areas of concern, which turned out to be density issues. But this latest one where each test led me further down the road to this specialized biopsy was like watching a horror movie unfold, frame by frame by frame.
Sometimes my nursing background is "too much knowledge," if you know what I mean. Anyway, I will try to keep a good thought.
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